Searching for a Soulmate (Cornerstone)
Jan 21, 2018 - Rev Paul Rasmussen
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- Make a list of what you expect from your significant other (or your future significant other). When did these turn from desires into expectations? How do you respond when he or she doesn’t meet expectations?
- Are there things on your list that God could fulfill? Perhaps that only God can fulfill?
- Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12. How is the “third strand” at work in your relationship? How could you invite God to be a stronger thread?
Why are so many unmarried people afraid they are going to settle and so many married people afraid that they did?
This week in Cornerstone, we looked at the cultural shift in romance, the lies that leave us unsatisfied and what we can do to fix it.
Here’s the shift in short:
“Marriage was an economic institution in which you were given a partnership for life in terms of children and social status and succession and companionship. But now we want our partner to still give us all these things, but in addition, I want you to be my best friend and my trusted confidant and my passionate lover to boot, and we live twice as long. So we come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide:
Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one. Give me comfort, give me edge. Give me novelty, give me familiarity. Give me predictability, give me surprise.” Esther Parel
This is an impossible burden for one person to bear. It’s not biblical. It’s not biological. It’s basically a Hollywood illusion.
The truth is, your spouse can only do what your spouse can only do.
Your spouse can’t fix you.
Your spouse can’t complete you.
Your spouse can’t make you a better person.
Only God can do this.
What can your spouse do? How can you have a great marriage? And what role does God play in it?
During your First 15, read 2 Kings 1:1-3. Knowing Ahaziah was the King of Israel, where did he go wrong with God? What is God challenging him to do? Are there questions in your life you are to another “god” to answer? Holes you are looking to someone else to fill? How can you turn to the one true God to meet those needs?