Friends, Follows, and Swipes
Oct 11, 2015 - Rev Matt Tuggle
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We started a new series called Relationshifts- a look at how modern culture is affecting our connection, communication, and expectations. We hope to see you next week as we keep looking at the relationships in our lives.
Recap- Relationshifts: Friends, Follows, and Swipes
We all agree that we are wired to desire relationships, but we’re also historically terrible at them.
Today, it’s harder than ever to be good at relationships. Between Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and you name what else, we are more connected than ever. Being more connected, however, comes with its ups and downs.
It’s great that we can stay in touch with people from the past, but sometimes our accessibility to those long distance friendships can keep us from forming lasting relationships with the people around us.
We live in a world where the options are plentiful. While this gives a nice variety of people to meet, it makes it increasingly difficult to invest in one person. The sheer volume of prospective dates can be overwhelming.
When you're away from your spouse, it is easier than ever to stay connected to them. You can even tell them goodnight face to face. However, there is a lot of danger when it comes to our connectivity and marriage. The power of social media is that it allows you to reconnect with past loves or new interests and provides a way to be sneaky in communicating with them.
Social media and the lastest advances in technology are fairly new, but our need for relationships can be traced all the way back to Genesis.
In Genesis 2, it says that God had created Adam but he saw that it was not good for him to be alone so he decided to make him a “helper as his partner.” So God created all the animals of the field, but none of them were a suitable partner. That’s when God took one of Adam’s ribs and, from it, formed Eve. It wasn’t just that he created a second human, it was that he split Adam to create another being that would then complete humanity.
We are created for relationships.
We all feel that tension in our lives when we aren’t satisfied by our relationships. One of the problems with how connected we are now is that it gives us the illusion that we have a lot of relationships, but the depth of the majority of those relationships barely scratches the surface. The key to being in real relationship is not to be connected to as many people as possible, but to go deeper with a few people.
Relationships aren’t about being connected, they’re about being invested.
We long for the kind of relationships that allow us to ask questions like “how are you doing, really?” We need to connect with people who will honestly answer that question when we ask, and who will ask it in return.
We need to be seeking people in our lives in whom we can truly invest. We need relationships that go deeper and people we can talk about the real stuff with.
You challenge this week is to date for friends. Regardless of which stage in life you’re in, it’s important to have deep friendships. Start seeking out people whom you as an individual, or as a married couple, can see yourself investing in.
God said himself that it is not right for humans to be alone. No matter how connected we are through social media or with surface level relationships, we are going to feel lonely until we make deeper connections.
Tuesday: John 1:1-18
Wednesday: John 1:19-28
Thursday: John 1:29-42
Friday: John 1:43-51